Guilt and Blame - the Shadow Side of the Sacral Chakra


Our Shadow Self are the parts of ourselves that are in ‘darkness’. These parts are the fear, emotions and powerlessness we have trapped within us. These are the parts of us that feel separated from worthiness, separated from life and separated from love, wholeness, security and well-being. We all have them and we don’t have to be stuck with them. Our shadows are striving to create our awakening to ourselves. The shadows are where defenses and hiding places are, that seek to stay in the unconscious. 


Our Sacral Chakra deals with relationships and pleasure and is blocked by Guilt which closes down our "right to feel".  Dealing with guilt requires that we examine what we think we did wrong, face it and evaluate it as objectively as possible. For example, what did you expect of yourself that you did not live up to? Were your expectations unrealistic? If they were, then you need to let go of them. Since you did all that you were capable of doing at the time, there simply is no basis for your guilt, and you need to let go of that as well. 

Nevertheless, if after careful examination of the facts, you find that your expectations of yourself are legitimate and you still did not live up to them, it’s important to face and take responsibility for what you believe you could have done differently. Healthy guilt allows us to own up to and learn from our mistakes. It gives us a chance to make amends, to do things differently next time, to come to a better understanding of ourselves, to forgive ourselves and move on. 


In healing guilt it is important to remember that we are here to learn. Learning is a trial and error enterprise. Sometimes we make mistakes, we do things we don't wish to repeat. So we learn. If, however, in the learning process we get infected with guilt - we then feel bad, sometimes really bad. A learning experience turns into an internal crime and courtroom scene with the feeling of guilt as the primary punishment. Learning is part of growing and evolving, and mistakes are excellent feedback in the learning process, if they are used as such. Our culture has taught us that making mistakes is bad, but this is not true. Mistakes are the norm in trial and error learning, and in fact they are necessary for learning and evolution. Learning is already hard enough without being punished for the mistakes that are a necessary part of the process.

Guilt and blame are a continuum. When it is in 'us', it is guilt. When it's about 'someone else', it is blame. When guilt feels impossible to own within ourselves, it can turn into blame and projected out onto another. Releasing judgments (blame) against others is just as liberating as releasing them against ourselves. 

The effects of releasing guilt are often subtle at first, but always cumulative. The more often you stop to release guilt when something bothers you, the easier it goes next time. Also, after just a little practice, the releases will go very quickly. Often all that is necessary is to realize you've had a judgment against yourself, and it will automatically release.



Here's one way to release judgments and heal from guilt and blame.  Whenever you're feeling guilt or blame, ask yourself “Where am I feeling this in my body?”

Find the feeling in your body, and as you are feeling into the energy of the feeling... ask yourself, “What is the guilt or judgment?”  You are looking for negative value judgments, along the lines of “I feel guilty because I....”

When you’ve found a judgment, say out loud or heartily in your mind’s voice something like:

1. “I release the guilt that I must hate myself because I ____.”
2. “I release the guilt that I am bad because I ____.”

After saying the guilt release statements, either aloud or strongly in your mind’s voice... return to the feeling in your body and notice if there is any difference. If you are still not comfortable with the feeling as it is, find and release other judgments as necessary.

Whatever it was that caused you to feel guilty is not wrong, it’s a choice. We have free will and every choice we make is valid, and particularly valuable when it’s used as a learning experience. Find the feeling in your body and release each negative judgment in it until there are no more.  

The more often you stop to find the feeling in your body and release judgments when something bothers you, the quicker and easier it goes next time. The less guilt you carry, the more quickly you learn and evolve, and the better you feel.



Bringing light to the shadows is a vital part of your spiritual path because it honors the need to explore and embrace all parts of you. Your 'Right to Feel', means claiming and maintaining your connection to your Higher Self. 


The secret of getting what you want in life is to get in the vibrational frequency of what you want – to go to the FEELING and BEING place of what you want.  We support you in manifesting your light through a variety of ways such as life coaching, guided meditations, affirmations, and development of personal goals, etc.


Part of what we offer you are 'Sacral Chakra Daily Practice' suggestions which is a unique part of the PrimeMyChakras program created to help you awaken to being at home in higher levels of consciousness. This gift will be given to you during the coaching process. 


By working with the Sacral Chakra and honoring one another, we have permission to be ourselves.  When we extend this same permission to others, our relationships develop greater closeness and respect. PrimeMyChakras program is designed to give you the tools you need to raise your vibration and deepen your connection to your Higher Self.  Release yourself from Guilt from past challenges, open to new possibilities, and get "unstuck" by awakening the heart of your Sacral Chakra.